"What you do is you sit on the edge of your bed and you say, 'Okay, what I did was wrong.' and you have to really believe this. You've thought about it. It's killing you. It's killing you. So now you're penitent, and you're confessing... and you're confessing to yourself as much as to anyone, and you say, 'I really want to know what I did wrong, and I really want to know what I can do to put it right. And I'm willing to accept any answer that will manifest itself to me.'
That's a prayer that will be answered, and it won't be answered in the way that you want it to be answered."